Dictionary – A connection, association or involvement
When we think of having a boyfriend or girlfriend we should
always remember to put God first.
Why do you date or go out as boyfriend/girlfriend.
- Peer pressure
- Thing to do
- Desire/Lust
- Experiment
What should be the ultimate end of going out with someone? Marriage!
Genesis 1:27-28 So God created man in his own image, in the
image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them,
Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have
dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every
living thing that moveth upon the earth.
Genesis 2:18-24 And the Lord God said, It is not good that
the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the
ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air;
and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam
called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to
all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but
for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the Lord God caused a
deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and
closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken
from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is
now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because
she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his
mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
What are some of the purposes of marriage? A married couple
are to be united as a family unit. They are to procreate and help and support each
other.
Where do you seek advice? Some people will ask friends,
family, parents, minister or a teacher. When people come to ask that all
important question, “Who should I marry?” they often try to handle it
themselves or ask people who maybe don’t have the knowledge.
We should always
seek the Lord’s direction and seek advice from our parents.
Psalm 73:24 Thou shalt guide me with thy counsel, and
afterward receive me to glory.
Proverbs 24:6 For by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war:
and in multitude of counsellors there is safety.
Read Gen 24:4, 7, 12, 14, 48 and 51
What do we learn from these verses?
- Find a wife/husband from your own people.
- The Lord will lead.
- Pray
- Look for a kind person
- Look for a hard worker
What should we look for in a husband or wife? Make a list.
One mother when asked what she would look for in a husband
for her daughter she gave the following list:
- He needed to be a Christian
- Trustworthy
- Honest
- Welcoming/Pleasant
- Mild-mannered
Another mother looks for the following in a wife to be for
her son
- Someone who put God first – Reads the Bible and prays
- Loving
- Good housewife – Cook etc
- One who listens and who you can talk over things with
Read Proverbs 6:20-25
In relationships we need to be careful how we conduit ourselves.
Men are stimulated through sight and they need to be careful.
Job 31:1 I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I
think upon a maid?
I believe it is also the responsibility of girls that they
dress in a modest manner so that they don’t draw wrongful attention.
To lust is to covet – Thou shalt not covet Ex 20:17 Thou
shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's
wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any
thing that is thy neighbour's.
How do difficulties come in a marriage? These happen when
husband and wives fail to follow the instructions in Eph 5:21-31.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-7 says, “For this is the will of God,
even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every
one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;
Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: That
no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord
is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For
God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness.”
Young people need to be very careful how they develop in their
relationships. It is good to get to know people in a group and over a longer
period before getting into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
We should always keep in front of us 1 Cor 6:20 which says, “For
ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your
spirit, which are God's.”
Further advice can be found in 1 Cor 7:1-9 for both those in
a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship and those who are married.
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